Andrew Sullivan publishes a Dad’s story of carrying to term
Kudos to Andrew Sullivan for publishing this story in the aftermath of the many Dr. Tiller discussions. A father has written to talk about his experience with their unborn baby girl. Their baby had been diagnosed with cystic hygroma and in their case, as in the majority of cases, it was advised that they terminate. But they did not want to do that – they chose to hold on.
Unfortunately, most of the stories Sullivan features champion late-term abortion. One story even goes so far as to question the term “viability” in regard to her premature twins (at 29 weeks) because they required “massive” medical care. Another describes the natural death of a close relative’s baby with anencephaly as “grueling”. I’ve read many, many accounts of the last moments for babies with anencephaly and none have been even remotely described as such. At any rate, we will praise the good (thanks for publishing a positive story), and overlook the bad.
A note for anyone who might be here because of a prenatal diagnosis involving cystic hygroma, you need to know that this particular story ends in loss. We have several stories on BNA that you may want to follow up with that involve both loss and survival against – well, about the worst odds possible: Arianna’s story , The Best Decision We Ever Made, They said it would take a miracle, and more. You’ll want to run over to Rosie’s site, too – a beautiful little one who happens to have Turner syndrome, a condition which sometimes involves cystic hygroma in utero.
04 Jun 2009 03:44 pm
My wife and I had our lives forever changed by an unexpected pregnancy that began one year ago, almost to the day. It was to be our first child, Zoey, and we were both very scared in the beginning. Everything had gone perfectly, when nearly four months into the pregnancy, we paid a routine visit to the hospital for an ultrasound session. The doctor’s face all of a sudden became grave, and he told us that not all was well.
Zoey had what is called a cystic hygroma, a buildup of fluid on the backside of the neck. These can, in some cases, go away, but in other cases they can grow, leading to hydropsy, which can cause the baby to die or be born in a severely handicapped state. Hers was a severe case. I will never, ever be able to forget those minutes inside the doctor’s office. They were the longest and most heart-rending of my life, and exponentially so for my wife. The pregnancy had forever changed our lives to begin with, and now everything had changed even more drastically. continue